I have two questions for you. First, do you know what makes you feel lively and adds to your joy? Second, what burns you and adds to your stress? Understanding these two will solve most of your problems.
Let me start with a simple example from my own experience. My happiness was always dependant upon something I did not possess. It was always like, “If I have this, everything will be so easy and all my problems will sort out”. Often, immediately after owning it, a new requirement popped up.
Do you too have an unending wishlist?
It is okay to have a wishlist, to run after things and working hard to own them. But when not getting them takes a toll on your happiness, that becomes a problem. And it is not just with materialistic things.
It can be not appreciating the food you get to eat or the job that helped you earn respect or your family who sacrificed so much for your happiness. It was then I realised that if I started appreciating what I had and not cribbed about what would have happened if the situation was otherwise, I will add to my happiness.
Here is the secret to a happy life
The key to a happy life is very simple. Adding what makes you happy and subtracting what makes you sad. Understanding this philosophy is not that difficult. The difficulty begins when you have to identify what those hidden treasures and pain areas are.
I started appreciating more and complaining less. This change seems small but the magnitude of the impact is unparalleled. Make the most of this simple philosophy, add the good, delete the bad and witness the difference yourself.